I can finally shelf the search!
The above photo is of the shelves in my home in the 1960s. I love everything about this (well, except the booze but the bottles do look elegant)! The albums, the radio, the wood grain speakers but most of all, two things: The statuesque black woman playing a small string instrument, and the incense burner where my mother burned a lot of sandalwood incense cones while playing the vinyl shown, especially The Beatles.
I had a tumultuous childhood which resulted in my having to live with and manage some very negative triggers throughout my life. Over the years I've learned to offset and/or overpower them with positive associations. For whatever reason the memories of those two objects always helped me relax. The power of positive association is very strong, just like the power of negative triggers can affect some of us in a deeply destructive way. My goal is to always surround myself with as much positivity as possible and practical.
A few weeks ago at the flea market I saw the exact same (but not my mother's--she still has and uses it) cast iron incense burner! I was so thrilled! The seller is also one of my favorites there. She always has the most random, quirky gotta-have-its. If you ever make it to Maine, check out the Arundel flea market and ask for Linda's table.
I found a fantastic sandalwood cone incense that's not dipped into a synthetic fragrance. The brand is Triloka and they have been in business since the 1970s. The scent is so calming and helps me feel centered. But because it is still smoke I only burn it outside to keep it healthier. The bugs do not dig it so it keeps them away from me.
Over the years I have tried to find the same mystical black statue that I once believed kept loving watch over me from atop those shelves decades ago. I put in various keywords into ebay and nothing close turned up so I gave up. But after finding the incense burner I was inspired to try again and this time while searching ebay I found her! She was made in 1963 and is signed Austin Prod. on the bottom. She made it to me safely all the way from a little town in Iowa and here is where she now sits:
I'm working on growing my record collection this year because listening to good music, especially from the 60s and 70s, is some of the best therapy out there for me.
Do you have any positive childhood associations with the things currently on display or use in your home?
(My next blog post will be a vintage perspective on the current "body positivity" movement, but due to exceptionally beautiful weather it might not be up for another week or two.)