Simple, Spiritual, Outdated Living in a Vintage New England Home on the Southern Coast of Maine

Age Positivity

Women weren't always expected to cover their grey. This is from a 1963 Clairol Come Alive ad.

Going gray was a glamorous option.

Before Photoshop and shame filters, beautiful women were permitted to show their wrinkles. This 1974 photo of Cheryl Tiegs was scanned from one of my magazines.

Today it seems like there are negative message all around us telling us that aging is a problem and not a natural process. This salon in my town couldn't stop at grey; they had to remind us that aging is a shameful secret. 

Even at the Whole Foods check-out line last week Wayne and I were faced with "Age Defying" "Instant Life & Firm."  We don't want to defy, defend or hide our age! We just want to be healthy and look great! I have no issues with serums, salves, lotions, and the myriad of products available to "reverse" damage done to our skin. I moisturize throughout the day. The issue is the age-shaming in the marketing.

Wayne is in his early 60s and I'm a year away from fifty. Together we've been sassing stereotypes and expectations placed upon us by others. The best battle is won not by bitterness but by feeling genuinely positive about being who we are. 

The following blog posts reflect my beliefs about age positivity:

Why I no longer shop or live by labels

Don't dress your age, don't look your age and other things I can't even!

A Vintage Perspective to Put an End to Grey-Shaming Chic

An Ageist New York Times Pro-Obesity Editorial 

From Before it Was Illegal for Women to Go Gray 

"Don't let your grey give your age away." Why not?

Popping and locking my way into a funk! Don't let age, race or decade define your groove.

A vintage perspective on "body positivity" and body acceptance

My personal style has always been consistently simple, comfortable, natural and practical for Maine living with a preference for the classics. Here are some mid-life style-related posts:

Importing Midlife Style from Marks & Spencer in the UK

Why I no longer shop or live by labels

Vintage inspired Mexican Muslin cotton peasant tops

What a peek into my closet reveals about my weight and self-image, past and present

Related to clothing, here are posts about "vanity sizing":

Vanity Sizing: 1970s Misses Wrangler Jeans vs 2017

What a 1960s shift dress can teach us about the growing movement with "vanity sizing."

Size Zero Tolerance for Vanity Sizing

000 and Vanity Sizing


  1. So agree! I try to take excellent care of myself, because I love myself, but don't obsess over it. I used to think I would dye my hair when it began to turn gray, but I actually like it! At my age, (59), it would look odd not to have any gray hair. Kathy Browne

    1. Good for you!Self-care from a place of caring and not condemnation is best!